Well today has been a hard day for my family. We met with the medial team in dad’s room this morning and discussed our options for the best possible care for dad to have the best quality of life that he has left. We listened to the doctors, we expressed our concerns and most importantly we listened to what dad wanted to do. Tears were shed and decisions were made.
I’m staying again tonight at the hospital with dad as the rest of the family goes to his home and prepares it for his arrival tomorrow. Dad clearly stated he wanted to go home to die. We all agreed to respect his wishes. Dad will be released from the hospital tomorrow with round the clock care from the family with the help of hospice.
Lots of preparations are needed with medical equipment and lots of changing around of his home. While that is all being done i’m staying with dad and making him as comfortable as possible. Dad has been diagnosed with stage IV Prostate/bladder cancer. The cancer has spread throughout his body and with the bowel obstruction.
Because his bowels still are not functioning even after surgery and numerous treatments he will be going home with a NG tube and oxygen only. As of today there is a order of DNR that dad had put in place a while back and given to us kids to use when we were ready to let him go. Sadly today we are honoring our dad’s wish and have given the orders. Dad does not want any type of life sustaining equipment.
I will be spending as much time as possible with my dad in the last days of his life. Please pray for my family as letting go of someone you love is very hard. I know that dad is going to a better place and he will soon be reunited with family he hasn’t seen for sometime.
